Could this kinda of situation work out ?? or is it doomed??

Soo your in a marriage that is very very unhappy and your spouse has cheated (twice) and you tried to work it out but are just very unhappy ....you reconnect with an ex who has been a very good friend since the breakup (breakup was a mutual thing since we were young) well you two talk all of the time because your husband neglects you and wont spend any time with you....Well you dont resort to cheating because you know how it feels and you dont even meet up with the person, you just talk to eachother on the phone...and even talk about a possible relationship someday...if things dont work out with the bad marriage...Would it be bad if you finally decided to divorce and maybe slowly ease into a relationship...or is this a bad situation?????Could this kinda of situation work out ?? or is it doomed??
I don't see any reason why it wouldn't work. You have done all you can to work things out with hubby, and that does sound like a lost cause. Get the divorce and move on. If things work with new guy great, if he is just your first step to healing that is OK, too. But like you said, take things slow with new guy, whether it's this one you mentioned or another. You need time to heal first.Could this kinda of situation work out ?? or is it doomed??
Get outta there. Sounds like you would be better off without him. You have to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy.








Peace.
Divorce is the best thing you could do if the marriage don't work. Let yourself heal first before going into another relationship. Remember, you've been to a relationship where you had been neglected and rejected, it made you vulnerable that you might mistakenly take friendship into love. Just take your time and don't rush things. Prayer will help!
If you leave.... don't go back to an EX!!! There are so many fish in the sea. And there's a reason why he's an EX....... think it through.
Get the divorce regardless.....I'd keep talking to the ';friend'; but don't count your chicken before they hatch. I don't think that it is a doomed situation....Life has a funny way of working out....trust me.
Do one thing at a time.





You should completely cut off your ';friend'; until you and your husband have made things final.





You should tell your ';friend'; why you're breaking things off with him





Then after all the dusts settle if you and your ';friend'; are still interested in having a relationship....then go ahead.
Get out of the failed marriage. Take some time for you. Then see if the ex is still interested.
how can anyone really know that answer..you only live once. I think if it does not work out with your husband and the other guy is still there if you were to get a divorce, then yes try it out. You just can never tell whats going to happen. good luck
First thing to look at is how are you living now? who's paying the bills? I say if you can't make it on your own, dont' leave. If you leave to be with this other guy and he changes his mind or a fight breaks out.....what then? Can your survive or will you be back begging the cheating husband to take you back. I have seen this happen more then once. Move out on your own, pay your own bills for a yr with no credit card, If you can make it then it's time to find a man. Good Luck
first get a divorce for the right reasons, that your unhappy and he cheats, don't get the divorce just on the reason theres someone else in your life. because that someone else may not work out. seek divorce first, than relationship.
You need to decide if your marriage will work or not as an entirely seperate deal without considering the other guy and should break off contact with him.. If you decide to divorce your husband (rather than try to work it out with counseling or such).. then you need to divorce him and learn to stand on your own two feet without having a backup guy... you want to know down the road (in case things don't work with the backup guy) that you left your marriage because that is what you wanted and not that you traded your husband in for another guy. If later, after divorcing and learning to stand on your own two feet, you still want backup guy, then give him a call.. if it's meant to be, it will happen, and if not.. well, at least you made your choices on your own.
Actually that is a good idea. I would advise for you to divorce now, it seems like your really unhappy, and you only live once, don't let your life pass you by.
You only live once so do what feels right, but talk to your husband and let him know you are seriously considering leaving him. He might straighten up !
nope. i would divorce. and then i would take it slow before jumping into any other relationship. what you have with this other guy make work or it may not. but dont make him the reason you leave your husband. leave for YOURSELF. only when you are happy with who you are and where you are will you be able to give the new relationship what it needs to last.
I see an oiled up pistol in your future! Don't cheat, just leave. That tit for tat crap always ends in gunplay!





You are setting yourself up for an emotional affair (if you aren't already in one). It's just as painful as a physical one.
Sure it could work. Anything is possible.





I believe after a divorce you will need time to be by yourself, find out who you are, and heal those emotional scars.





You need to learn how to be honest with yourself. For example, you say you don't resort to cheating but you admit to us that you are reconnecting with an ex.





That alone is cheating.





Come on now. Be honest with yourself about yourself and your intentions.





Good luck.
Simple, take things in a step by step process. Dont rush into anything, and keep checking your decisions as you go through your healing process.