Is it possible to reconnect with your spouse?

In the beggining we would talk all night...you know all the good and fuzzy stuff and comfortablness you feel when with him...even if its on the phone...where you might even have a minute or so without speaking yet still feel comfortable. Once that it lost in a long marraige...can it be rekindled anyway? And how? My husband and I are separated and cant seem to talk for more then 2 minuteas at a time. I did leave him and hurt him really bad about 19 months ago. We were together for 12 years.





How can you rekindle the romance and feel of a new relationship with your long term spouse? Or should I just give up and move on? My husband lvoes me very much and wants me back but I cant seem to feel teh same way I do with him as I do with my current boyfriend. (husband and I are separated so dont judge)





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good question, marriedalomost 25 years, hes been working overseas for years, he had an affair last year, im wiling to work on whatever we have left but where do we start? i say with talking to a pastor, get some solid biblical counseling. to love him or not is a choice, when were first met we'd talk on the phone 4 hours, now we can't do it 40 minutes.


just hang in there, make the effort, if he loves you that is something you don't walk away from.
If I were your boyfriend I wouldnt say this to your face but F U!
Follow your heart %26lt;3
Of course those feelings can be rekindled. However, you won't feel the fuzzy feelings for your husband UNTIL you leave your boyfriend.





If you want to reconnect with your husband (assuming you're wanting a relationship with him, not just a friendship), you need to focus 100% of your heart on him. Don't try to split it with someone else; it just won't work.





Your husband is your husband. He deserves all of your heart. Same goes for him, you deserve all of his heart. If either of you can't give the other one that--and that's something only the two of you can decide--you need to end the relationship.





Aside from ending things with your current boyfriend, try going away on a trip together, just the two of you. Have a second honeymoon and go someplace quiet, without a ton of distractions. Even if it's just to a bed and breakfast for a few days, you need to just be with each other away from all the stresses of life. Focus your energy on each other. Make your marriage your priority. That's how to rekindle your relationship. You will gain something much deeper than the fuzzy, puppy-dog feelings of a new love.
Comparing the wants %26amp; sexual power of a relatively new relationship with a more mature relationship is... well, an unfair comparison. All marriages go through peaks %26amp; valleys spread over years. So, what's happening (emotionally towards your spouse) does not seem surprising or abnormal.... By the way, if kids are involved, it's not only about you %26amp; how you feel... or about your husband either.





Here are some questions that you may want to consider honestly: What did you do (or not do) in your marriage that contributed to its breakdown? What did your husband do (or not do)? Are both you willing to take responsibility for each of your parts %26amp; work on changing those habits that contributed to your relationship's breakdown?





It's definitely possible to heal, reconnect and revive your trust %26amp; relationship. Get help if you %26amp; your husband need some perspective. It'll take commitment to be yourself and allow your husband to be himself (and definitely vice-versa).





Love is a choice (i.e., action, empowering, real giving... not attraction, lust, etc.). I wish you and your husband well.