How do you build communication in your marriage?

I want to know who people reconnect with their spouse. How do you work on your communication when the other person doesn't want to?How do you build communication in your marriage?
Well, I think there is one of two ways:


1.) Put it on the line - i.e. a do or die situation. I think this establishes a line that could eventually develop into a wall.


2.) You SERVE. A lot of people will probably reject this notion, but I know for me that when I began rejecting my needs and desires as priorities and made my wife's needs and desires a priority, it seemed to cause a change. In other words, it seemed like she began to love me again, began to want to know how I felt again...and this happened in the very real situation where she was considering an affair.





What I'm trying to say, is ';set the example.'; Get what you want with a concerted effort being placed on giving him what he wants. But trust me, it's more difficult than I've admitted here.





Just my opinion, good luck!How do you build communication in your marriage?
When one partner doesn't want to work on something, the only way you can move forward is to try to convince that person how serious of an issue your lack of communication really is.





You can try requesting a time to talk with them and then talking in a straightforward, factual manner with no emotions. If they insist there is no problem or that they aren't interested in ';working'; on anything, you're probably not going to have any progress, I'm sorry to say.
I think finding out why your spouse doesn't want to work on your communication would be important. Of course, it may also be difficult to ascertain if he doesn't wish to communicate.





You can always work on your end. Make sure you are being clear, concise, kind and saying exactly what you mean when you talk to your husband. When he talks to you, if you feel like you aren't getting the information you need from him, ask, but ask very pointed questions so you can obtain your information quickly and without upsetting him.





Good luck!
Well that's a major problem if both aren't willing to bridge the gap. Get to the bottom of why he doesn't want to reconnect. Serious talks without getting defensive or aggressive can be very beneficial, but if you see the talk turning ugly, walk away. But keep trying to get through, just make sure it's an honest desire to connect and not an attack on him personally.
A problem with communication in marriages, is men and women communicate differently. For males, conversation is the way you negotiate your status in the group and keep people from pushing you around; you use talk to preserve your independence. Females, on the other hand, use conversation to negotiate closeness and intimacy; talk is the essence of intimacy, so being best friends means sitting and talking. For guys, activities, doing things together, are central. Just sitting and talking is not an essential part of friendship. They're friends with the guys they do things with
I'm with 8 ball. Couples have to reevaluate things occasionally. You wouldn't invest money in something and then never look at it again for 50 years, right? You can't do that with a marriage either. I would sit down and have a non-confrontational talk. It might be scary at first, because nobody wants to think that anything is wrong. But it will feel a lot better afterwards, just to air whatever issues or concerns you both have.
May be your busy daily routine break everything in your communication. Set aside some little free time together everyday, after dinner or before bed. Should be the relax time and should not talk about anything serious at this moment.





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Chinese finger-cuff lesson.


Easy up and take a step back on your priories and work on yourself to engage him first.


(Sex, play, attraction, food, praise.)





There is a sort of natural progress people can make on such things and forcing yourself or another to change faster than that causes pain (which greatly increases resistance).
When we go to bed at night we lay awake for hours talking, joking laughing sometimes waking up the kid!! I miss that now since he is in Texas at his PCS and I am stuck here waiting for the house to sell.. He's heading to Iraq in August ( sigh)
well, there is this video that Benny Lava did post.





it has helped me tremendously.





i just can't tell yet if it is pushing my husband further away, or if he is trying to get closer to me so i will show it to him.
Think of it as meeting and getting to know someone new. Think of it as a job interview. Put your best foot forward and be as fair and positive as you can be.





Also - I agree with Ace.
You have to find something in common that you both like and start with that. Take away the tv, game stations and computer and start talking.
You can try talking about things the other person likes to talk about to start the building process.
I vote for a frank talk about how you are not digging the new situation. You guys just moved, right? It's time for a fresh start, and that doesn't mean separately.
Ditch the television, ditch the computer, and set aside evenings where the two of you just chill together.
Perseverance. Keep it new.
Keep drawing out the others' feeling and opinions.
i guess just sit next to him and start takling about something thats gonna make he laugh... and then try asking im questions and he'll respond and like that
I tell the wife to be quiet and listen.
You just talk, talk, talk, and eventually they have to listen or go crazy! lol
I smack him and say ';Hey!! Listen to me!!';








No, not really. We do pretty good at the communication thing.
You should cook more, then give him head